L-O-V-E, The purest feeling of all
Dear people,
There's so much things going into my ming for the past week. A bestfriend of mine having a difficult problems with the parents.This kind of common problem, that their relationship is being disgrace by the parents alias ga disetujui ama orang tua.
L-O-V-E.. is a truthful feeling neither your hear can hide nor your soul can deny
I just asking, why two people who both in love, feeling a comfort and joyful moment could be separated by a judgmental question. Let me take you to the bottom root:
"Is she or he is on the same religion as yours?"
"Is she or he rich enough to share a bright future with you?"
"Is she or he comes from the prestigious background?"
"Is she or he could make your parents proud?"
and so on..and so on....
I do went through these all of questions before my marriage, I came from Surabaya, Indonesia while "bibit-bebet-bobot" tradition is still existing. Tapi, tidak semua orang jatuh cinta atau melalui suatu hubungan yg sama dan mulus2 saja, bukan?. For you who choose arranged-marriage, I truly respect it. But there are many couples outside there who willing to fight to wim their love and ended in a marriage path as well.
For who in the relationship with lots of diversities for eample different race, culture, caste, status, and many more... I suggest have a faith in yourself, sometimes everything seems not support up to you. But, when you know the answer, keep on it, fight for it and win it.. but one crucial thing you must to know is you must be able to face the risks.
About the questions, If I would like to suggest.... Let say I keep it in my way:
"Do you really feel happiness with him/her?"
"Do he/she will able to give the best to you, for the rest of your life?"
"Do he/she will accept you the way you are?"
"Do he/she will fight together in the future to achieve the most convenient life for you and make your family proud?"
Falling in love, will just happen like that. Without questioning about caste, money, publicity, goodlooking or any other sill question. Regarding to financially stable, I truly understand that any other parent will think about this espescially if you have a daughter. but you know what, as long as you are equipped your daughter or son with proper education, nothing else will be a matter. Istilahnya, anak2 ini kalo punya pendidikan dan moral yang baik, ke depan-nya mereka bisa berdiri sendiri.
It's too shallow to judge people from the "material" things, as long as you're in love, feel happy and grateful with the one that you love.. I think that is the stability of any other human feel looking for.. and endless love :-)).
For my bestfriend, I just wanna say.. keep fighting for the one that you love. I always by your side no matter what.. dont hear the negativity, just pray to God and let He lead the way.But bare in your mind that every choice has it own consequences.
Saya menulis ini bukan-nya against some culture, ini cuma opini saya. Semua orang memiliki hak fundamental untuk memilih jalan hidup dengan orang yg mereka cintai. simple kok.. ga neko2 and I truthfully admire for those who fight for their love. I really do....
There's so much things going into my ming for the past week. A bestfriend of mine having a difficult problems with the parents.This kind of common problem, that their relationship is being disgrace by the parents alias ga disetujui ama orang tua.
L-O-V-E.. is a truthful feeling neither your hear can hide nor your soul can deny
I just asking, why two people who both in love, feeling a comfort and joyful moment could be separated by a judgmental question. Let me take you to the bottom root:
"Is she or he is on the same religion as yours?"
"Is she or he rich enough to share a bright future with you?"
"Is she or he comes from the prestigious background?"
"Is she or he could make your parents proud?"
and so on..and so on....
I do went through these all of questions before my marriage, I came from Surabaya, Indonesia while "bibit-bebet-bobot" tradition is still existing. Tapi, tidak semua orang jatuh cinta atau melalui suatu hubungan yg sama dan mulus2 saja, bukan?. For you who choose arranged-marriage, I truly respect it. But there are many couples outside there who willing to fight to wim their love and ended in a marriage path as well.
For who in the relationship with lots of diversities for eample different race, culture, caste, status, and many more... I suggest have a faith in yourself, sometimes everything seems not support up to you. But, when you know the answer, keep on it, fight for it and win it.. but one crucial thing you must to know is you must be able to face the risks.
About the questions, If I would like to suggest.... Let say I keep it in my way:
"Do you really feel happiness with him/her?"
"Do he/she will able to give the best to you, for the rest of your life?"
"Do he/she will accept you the way you are?"
"Do he/she will fight together in the future to achieve the most convenient life for you and make your family proud?"
Falling in love, will just happen like that. Without questioning about caste, money, publicity, goodlooking or any other sill question. Regarding to financially stable, I truly understand that any other parent will think about this espescially if you have a daughter. but you know what, as long as you are equipped your daughter or son with proper education, nothing else will be a matter. Istilahnya, anak2 ini kalo punya pendidikan dan moral yang baik, ke depan-nya mereka bisa berdiri sendiri.
It's too shallow to judge people from the "material" things, as long as you're in love, feel happy and grateful with the one that you love.. I think that is the stability of any other human feel looking for.. and endless love :-)).
For my bestfriend, I just wanna say.. keep fighting for the one that you love. I always by your side no matter what.. dont hear the negativity, just pray to God and let He lead the way.But bare in your mind that every choice has it own consequences.
Saya menulis ini bukan-nya against some culture, ini cuma opini saya. Semua orang memiliki hak fundamental untuk memilih jalan hidup dengan orang yg mereka cintai. simple kok.. ga neko2 and I truthfully admire for those who fight for their love. I really do....
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